How can you tell a natural mother from a fosterer? The knowledge that fosterers are more likely to be abusive is nothing new. In this excerpt from the Bible, we see King Solomon applying this wisdom way back in about the year 970 B.C....
"Then came there two women, that were harlots, unto the king, and stood before him. And the one woman said, O my lord, I and this woman dwell in one house; and I was delivered of a child with her in the house. And it came to pass the third day after that I was delivered, that this woman was delivered also: and we were together; there was no stranger with us in the house, save we two in the house. And this woman's child died in the night; because she overlaid it. And she arose at midnight, and took my son from beside me, while thine handmaid slept, and laid it in her bosom, and laid her dead child in my bosom. And when I rose in the morning to give my child suck, behold, it was dead: but when I had considered it in the morning, behold, it was not my son, which I did bear.
And the other woman said, Nay; but the living is my son, and the dead is thy son. And this said, No; but the dead its thy son, and the living is my son. Thus they spake before the king.
Then said the king, The one saith, This is my son that liveth, and thy son is the dead: and the other saith, Nay; but thy son is the dead, and my son is the living.
And the king said, Bring me a sword.
And they brought a sword before the king. And the king said, Divide the living child in two, and give half to the one, and half to the other.
Then spake the woman whose the living child was unto the king, for her bowels yearned upon her son, and she said, O my lord, give her the living child, and in no wise slay it.
But the other said, Let it be neither mine nor thine, but divide it.
Then the king answered and said, Give her the living child, and in no wise slay it: she is the mother thereof.
And all Israel heard of the judgment which the king had judged; and they feared the king: for they saw that the wisdom of God was in him, to do judgment."
1 Kings 3:16-28
Let's look for a moment at what we didn't hear. Did we hear the king say, "You are unfit because you're a harlot?" or "Which woman would make a better mother?" NO! King Solomon wanted to give the child to the NATURAL mother - no matter which woman that was.
While fosterers may WISH for a child, it does not make them a more appropriate parent. The natural bond between flesh and blood parents and their children causes them (in most cases) to instinctively know what is right for their children, and to want to protect them. Therefore when Solomon threatened the baby's life, the NATURAL mother was the only one that showed any concern for the well-being of the child. It was obvious who God had chosen for the mother of that child.
Statistics show that children are ten times more likely to be abused in fosterincarceration, and this is why: If the natural flesh and blood bond is missing, so is the instinctive need to protect the child.
